Sperms swimming |
“It’s better when it’s fresh,” he told them.
“It” is Nagel’s semen, and it’s
in demand. The 6-foot-2 CUNY Kingsborough math professor has served as a sperm donor for dozens of locals, siring 22 kids over the past 12 years with 18 women
of various backgrounds.
For lesbian couples and single ladies looking to have a baby without the expense of going through a sperm bank
(which can run in the thousands of dollars), he’s the No. 1 dad.
“This isn’t time-consuming, and
I’m doing it anyway,” he says of his hands-on hobby. “It’s very easy for me to
do.”
His oldest child, now 12, was
conceived with a woman he was in a committed relationship with, but all of his
offspring since, he says, have resulted from his donations.
About half the time, he
provides his seed the old-fashioned way. Sometimes, a lesbian looking to
conceive will have her partner in the bed for moral support while she and Nagel
engage in intercourse.
“She’s never slept with a guy
before, so the partner’s in bed, holding her hand,” Nagel explains. “Sometimes,
it could be a little painful, then after a few times, they’re comfortable to do
it on their own.”
Other times, he supplies his
goods in a cup, which he prefers.
“I’m not doing it for easy
action,” Nagel says. “Isn’t that what Tinder is for?”
He often uses public bathrooms,
like those at Target and at Starbucks shops, to procure his samples and hand
them off to ovulating women.
“You don’t want to do it in one
where people are knocking,” he notes.
He will also offer his services
in his home near Downtown Brooklyn, but mama wannabes are often more
comfortable meeting in public.
Once a location is chosen,
Nagel will go into the bathroom, pleasure himself while watching porn on his
iPhone — “You can’t connect to Target Wi-Fi if you’re connecting to a porn
site, so I use my cell service,” he says and ejaculate into an Instead
Softcup, a type of menstrual cup.
He then delivers the specimen
to the woman, who goes into the ladies’ restroom and inserts it into her
cervix.
“I can keep it in for 12
hours,” says Dege, a 40-year-old lesbian from The Bronx who was one of the
women meeting Nagel at the Target last week.
Dege, who declined to give her
last name, had tried a few times before using Nagel’s sperm, but hadn’t yet
conceived.
This time might do the trick.
The prolific professor is often successful, which he attributes to a high sperm
count: 85 million per milliliter.
“It’s off the charts,” he
boasts. “The clinic said they’ve never seen anything like it.”
(The Mayo Clinic says normal sperm density ranges from 15 million to greater than 200 million sperm per
milliliter.)
Nagel made his first foray into
professional baby-making eight years ago with a friend — a single, straight
Jewish woman in her late 30s and living on the Upper West Side.
“I actually tried to fix her
up. I had a friend who I thought would be a better match as a sperm donor,” he
says. “He got cold feet at the last minute.”
So Nagel went with the woman to
the fertility clinic.
Then he helped out two lesbians seeking a donor on Craigslist. Other women have heard about him through friends
and Known Donor Registry, a free website for those looking for sperm donors.
‘I’m not doing it for easy
action. Isn’t that what Tinder is for? … I just love seeing how happy the moms
and kids are. It’s the gift that keeps on giving.’
- Ari Nagel
Women who have used Nagel’s
services — which he provides for free — say his good looks, personality and
high sperm count are a draw.
“He’s a lot of fun to be
around, he loves people, he’s outgoing, and he’s gorgeous,” says Tiffany
Harrison, 41, of New Jersey, who with her wife, Yvonne, has a toddler daughter,
Zoe, sired by Nagel.
As for his own motivations, the
big daddy insists he just likes spreading his seed.
“I just love seeing how happy
the moms and kids are . . . That’s why I do this,” he says. “It’s the
gift that keeps on giving.”
And Nagel, who grew up in an
Orthodox Jewish family with six siblings, says he gets the benefits of having a
large brood without the hassle.
“I feel like I’m getting all
the joy, but also getting a good night’s rest,” he says.
Nagel has a Facebook album of
photos of his kids and regularly baby-sits and attends birthday parties and
graduations. He has even been present for a handful of deliveries.
“Single women prefer me to
their mom,” he claims.
Nagel says his name appears on
the birth certificate for just under half of his offspring. Some take his
surname, and there’s even an Ari Jr. and two Arias. A few families have used
him multiple times.
“A lot of them want another
sibling for the [first] child,” he says.
Modal Trigger Nagel with client
Kanisha Butler and Aarore, the daughter he helped conceive.Photo: Kanisha
Butler
And Nagel’s seed-sowing isn’t a
drain on his love life. He doesn’t make a point of mentioning it on dates, but
when it comes up, ladies typically don’t mind.
Modal Trigger Nagel with
satisfied customer Shaniece Cromer of The Bronx and her 11-month-old daughter,
Taraji.Photo: Shaniece Cromer
“Never underestimate the
desperation of a single woman on the Upper West Side,” he says.
But it’s not all sunshine and
babies.
The first five women he worked
with successfully sued him for child support, and nearly half of his paycheck
is garnished for his offspring.
“I don’t know what’s more
surprising: that five sued or that 17 didn’t,” Nagel says. “They were all well
aware there was no financial obligation on my part. They all promise in advance
they won’t sue.”
Crystal, a Connecticut woman
who has two sons, 6 and 7, by Nagel, says she wasn’t aware of any such arrangement.
The 45-year-old mom, who took
Nagel to court for child support, says that she was expecting to co-parent with
him and that she didn’t know of his plans to father an entire baseball team.
“My kids got left in the dust,”
says the woman, who conceived both boys through intercourse. “You can’t
co-parent with 20-something kids.”
(The other four who sued could
not be reached or had no comment.)
Modal Trigger Tiffany Harrison of New Jersey
holds her daughter Zoe — sired by Nagel joined by wife Yvonne. Photo: Stephen
Yang
The big daddy says that the
angry moms are just hungry for money and that there was no misunderstanding.
“I think they went in with the
intention to sue,” he claims.
Still, he hasn’t bothered
taking preventative legal measures, because such agreements are rarely binding.
Less-contentious baby-mama
drama can begin well before a kid is born.
“Two women can be surging
[highly fertile] the same day,” he says. “I have to make a decision. Do I go
with the 45-year-old because she’s running out of time and every month makes a
difference? Or do I go with the 30-year-old who says, ‘Am I chopped liver?’?”
And it continues as the kids
grow.
“Some of the mothers, they have
attitudes,” says Shaniece Cromer, a Bronx single mom to an 11-month-old girl,
Taraji, whom she conceived with Nagel via in-vitro fertilization. “The jealous
moms feel like their kids don’t get enough time with him.”
Nagel’s progeny isn’t limited
to the tri-state area. He has kids in Florida, Illinois, Virginia, Connecticut
and Israel. Some he sees once a week, some he sees once a year, some he’s never
met.
Despite the court cases and
child-support payments, Nagel says he has no regrets. He’s open to more kids
and says he’s in talks with several women looking to conceive, although he
admits he’s getting a bit old for the job.
“Financially, it’s bankrupted
me, but I’m still very happy with the way things turned out,” he says. “I got
22 million in the bank — in my kids.”
Modal Trigger Ari Nagel with one of the
children he sired, Zoe Harrison.
Photo: Tiffany Harrison
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